Congratulations for doing something new, trying to change your life so that you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want. That is an amazing gift you are giving yourself. You may not succeed with every attempt, but with every attempt you will get closer to what you want. That in itself is a win.
I have found that no matter what positive change I am making for myself, there are those I care about who are negative about the change. These are the nay-sayers. They will throw road blocks in your way or make you doubt your commitment with just a quick comment. The comments that are usually most damaging are the ones that come from within your circle of friends and family.
The nay-sayers may not be overt, but you will feel the sting of their comments. Their comments may be something like these. “I hope it works.” “Are you sure you really want to do that?” “I would never do that.” “That sounds bad/uncomfortable/icky.” The lack of support can damage your new habits without you even recognizing it. Don’t let them. Hear these comments for what they are and what they are not.
Nay-sayers are telling you about their fear of failure or their actual past failure. Maybe you are trying something new like rock climbing. The nay-sayer will say “I wouldn’t do that, without a good partner you will get hurt.” Maybe what the nay-sayer is really saying is “I am afraid of rock climbing” or “I couldn’t do it when I tried, I didn’t make it to the top of the wall.” Neither comment has anything to do with you or your efforts to make positive change in your life. They are both comments about the nay-sayer and their own fears and failures. Don’t let their negative statements derail you from your path.
If you are on your right path, what you are doing for you is far more important than allowing the nay-sayers to sway you from your goals. You are not doing what you are doing to have any impact on them, it is for you. So, let those comments float by you like a fast moving stream after a heavy rain. They don’t mean anything and then they are gone. You can’t get rid of your friends because they do not support everything you do, and once you realize it has nothing to do with you, it is easier to let it go of those comments.
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Follow your lihght,
How do you spend your time? Are you spending it resting, doing things you must to do, and going to and from the doctors. Where’s the fun? What brings you joy?
You are still living, so why not live your best life? Have as much fun and joy as you can stand. When you reach a point when you can’t do what you want, don’t you want amazing memories of love, fun, and joy to carry you through? The memories that will make you happy are likely to be the ones of going to the doctors, cleaning the house, and doing errands. I would expect that the memories you will treasure are the ones that bring you pleasure. So, don’t you want more of those than of the ones that don’t?
Don’t forget in the process of dying, you are still living. Find the joy! Do what makes you happy! Stop worrying about doing things that don’t really matter! At this point in your life, the most important things are those that make you happy. Enjoy this time.
Wishing you joy, love, and peace
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Today is the last post in our 10 day series. It’s New Year’s Eve! Today’s joy post could only be about finding joy in new beginnings. A new beginning doesn’t have to happen when the calendar tells us there is a momentous event, such as a birthday, new year, or even a new month.
Every day is a new beginning with the possibility of finding joy! .
Resolutions fail often because they are too large a goal and something that is hard to maintain. What if your resolution for 2015 was to find joy in every day. Each day you have the opportunity to start over and find a new joy. How much happier would your life be if you found something joyful in each and every day? I challenge you to try and find out!
Keep finding your joy and never give up. If you fail one day, remember, tomorrow is a new beginning.
While spending some time outside, I heard the song of a lovely bird and saw beautiful flowers growing in the cold weather. There is so much beauty and joy in nature, if we just look and listen around us. I often miss the beauty around me. The cars on the road mute the song of the birds. I spend more time inside than I should, and I miss the blooming flowers and beautiful trees. So, I have been spending a bit more time looking for the joy in nature, and finding it. Can you spend some time and enjoy the nature around you?
I find a lot of comfort and joy in the quiet of the morning. While I don’t love getting up, I do love being outside walking my dog in the morning. It is quiet (usually) and I can just be present in the moment walking around with her. Weekend or work at home mornings are the best. There is no pressure to move faster or worry about the time we spend outside. These aren’t long walks, but they bring me the joy of being present in the quiet morning. I hope you find some joy in nature today!
Merry Christmas! For those, who celebrate Christmas, this is a day often spent with family and friends. Joy should be abundant, because we we take the time to be with the ones we love. We make an extra effort to be nice to one another, we show more compassion than normal, and we try to enjoy our time together. Normally, each of us gets lost in our every day lives. We are often too busy to connect in a real and meaningful way. On this holiday, be joyful of the time you spend with those you care about. This connection and making meaningful memories is the real joy of the holiday season.
Find your joy today!
The gift of time. At this time of year, many of us have time off from our jobs. Some of us travel to spend time with friends and family, and some use the time to enjoy the season. I find joy in the freedom that my vacation provides. I am not on a schedule which dictates when I get up, where I go, and when to go to sleep. I can allow myself the freedom to use the time as I wish, and this brings me great joy. I love this freedom of time, and hope to use this time to form new habits that bring me joy throughout the year.
Where are you finding our joy today?
I discovered joy in an unusual place today, although it really is all about perspective. I belong to a networking group for women entrepreneurs, and today was one of our regular meetings. I am not always motivated to get to the meetings, but I always leave feeling more knowledgeable than when I got there. This diverse group of women are so smart, savvy, and interesting. It is an amazing experience to be surrounded by so many of them all in one place (and virtually through our online group). I could say they are inspiring, but it is really more than that. You can see the friendships, camaraderie, and the absolute willingness to help others succeed. If that isn’t joyful, then what is? I get to be part of this group, and I couldn’t ask for a better! Thanks Femworking Ladies.
Find your joy!
Today’s Joy post was going to be about the joy of giving, but I have gotten so many unexpected gifts today (and this week) that I have switched it up to be a post about the joy of receiving. Not the material part of getting presents, but the joy that comes from unexpected surprises. I could be embarrassed to have been caught off guard by these gifts, but instead I feel so incredibly lucky and grateful. These individuals brought me so much joy by their gifts. Not for what they are materially (although I do love them), but how they took the time and effort to show me that they cared. How lucky I am to have so many friends, and such unexpected joy.
Find your joy!
Sometimes joy can be found so close to us that we forget to really see it every day. I find joy daily with my furry companion. I am responsible for my dog’s life, which makes me responsible for her health, happiness, and daily life. Even with all these responsibilities, she makes me happy every day. She looks at me with those big brown eyes, and I would do almost anything to make her feel loved. I hope yours brings you as much joy as mine brings me.
Find the Joy!