Dealing with the Nay-Sayers 

Congratulations for doing something new, trying to change your life so that you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.  That is an amazing gift you are giving yourself. You may not succeed with every attempt, but with every attempt you will get closer to what you want. That in itself is a win.

I have found that no matter what positive change I am making for myself, there are those I care about who are negative about the change. These are the nay-sayers. They will throw road blocks in your way or make you doubt your commitment with just a quick comment. The comments that are usually most damaging are the ones that come from within your circle of friends and family.

The nay-sayers may not be overt, but you will feel the sting of their comments.  Their comments may be something like these.  “I hope it works.” “Are you sure you really want to do that?” “I would never do that.” “That sounds bad/uncomfortable/icky.”  The lack of support can damage your new habits without you even recognizing it. Don’t let them.  Hear these comments for what they are and what they are not.

Nay-sayers are telling you about their fear of failure or their actual past failure.  Maybe you are trying something new like rock climbing.  The nay-sayer will say “I wouldn’t do that, without a good partner you will get hurt.” Maybe what the nay-sayer is really saying is “I am afraid of rock climbing” or “I couldn’t do it when I tried, I didn’t make it to the top of the wall.”  Neither comment has anything to do with you or your efforts to make positive change in your life. They are both comments about the nay-sayer and their own fears and failures. Don’t let their negative statements derail you from your path.

If you are on your right path, what you are doing for you is far more important than allowing the nay-sayers to sway you from your goals. You are not doing what you are doing to have any impact on them, it is for you. So, let those comments float by you like a fast moving stream after a heavy rain. They don’t mean anything and then they are gone. You can’t get rid of your friends because they do not support everything you do, and once you realize it has nothing to do with you, it is easier to let it go of those comments.

Do you need someone in your corner who cares about what is right for you?  Let me help you along this journey of self enhancement and self care.  My coaching will help you tune into what is best for you, while teaching you to filter out the voices that may not have your best interest at heart.

Follow your lihght,

Jackie