I haven’t been posting a lot lately. In January, I decided to go on a 6-month journey of self care. There is always so much going on around us, many of us don’t ever put ourselves first. I am not convinced that we even know what putting ourselves first really means. For me, it was about my health. I have a thyroid condition and while it is something I can manage, I want to heal my body rather than manage it.
This meant changing my diet and starting to look at my health in a completely different way. I did this for 3 months with the help of good smart friends and my doctor. But it wasn’t getting me as far as I wanted, so I made some changes and additions to my health team. I hired a coach to help me understand what is going on with my body in a way that I can’t know all on my own–someone who will help me manage challenges that have been binding me much of my life and dragging down my health.
Even the coach needs a coach. Everyone needs help sometimes, and sometimes the help you need is bigger than your circle. Our society values independence and self-reliance, and those are amazing skills which we work toward from toddler- thru adulthood. We push boundaries, try to walk on our own, and show frustration when we can’t do something we want to do on our own. It is a normal healthy part of life, but sometimes, in being independent and self-reliant, we forget that it is ok to need the help of others.
For many of us asking for help is one of the hardest things in the world. We often falsely believe that this makes us weak. That isn’t true: It is a sign of strength to ask for help when you need it. It is sometimes easier and better to ask for help from someone outside of our circle. There are reasons that sometimes we need a professional to help us. This was true for me and it is why I hired a coach.
My coach has a big job. It isn’t because I am a bad client, it is because of how important this change is for me and I am not willing to settle. I am not going to pretend that things are working for me when they aren’t and I want to see real change. Changing your mind and your behavior is tough, and having the support of a trained professional is often needed. Someone said to me yesterday, “I hope it works.” My response was, “It will.” Why? Because it is time. The switch in my brain and body that said real change is necessary finally went off in a way I could hear it and respond.
Has your switch gone off? Are you looking for help in doing something you can’t seem to do on your own or within your circle of friends and loved ones? Maybe it is time to hire a coach. I have three coaching loves. I started as a leadership coach, and I love helping people be better leaders within their organizations. I coach the terminally ill to find peace, joy, and happiness at the end of life. There is no greater honor than aiding in someone’s final transition. My third coaching love is helping people find and listen to their inner voice again, and believe their own intuition. It is so easy in to stop listening to our inner voice–not the one driven by ego and fear, but the one that knows what is right for us and will lead us to exactly what we need, if we are brave enough to let the voice be heard.
If you want help moving forward, get in touch with me. I would be grateful and honored to help you move forward.
Wishing you peace and joy,